Jessica Lindsay
Published April 11, 2026 4:44pm
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Use these questions to learn more about your significant other(Picture: Getty Images)
Whether you’re in the first flushes of a relationship, are still just texting, or know each other inside out, it’s always fun to add a little zest to things.
From ‘would you rather’ to ‘never have I ever’, there are likely still things about your partner that you don’t know, and using a game is a great way to find out.
Asking questions to your boyfriend or girlfriend can help you connect with them on a deeper level, and start off conversations that might not have happened without a little prompt.
So, if you want to find out more about your partner’s sexual desires and fantasies, we’ve got a selection of questions and conversation starters that you can use at any time.
Even if not all of the questions apply to you or your partner or are appropriate for your relationship, you can pick and choose to get them having fun.
Some are more on the flirty, suggestive side, while others are somewhat risque.
These questions can be asked in or outside of the bedroom (Picture: Getty Images)
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Happy asking…
- What’s your dirtiest sexual fantasy?
- How many people have you slept with?
- Where’s the weirdest place you’ve had sex?
- What’s your favourite part of my body?
- Have you ever had anal sex?
- If you could choose what I was wearing right now, what would you choose?
- Where on your body is your favourite place to be touched?
- When was the last time you had a dirty dream?
- If you could have sex anywhere in the world, where would it be?
- When did you first have sex?
- What’s the best sex you’ve ever had?
- What’s your favourite position?
- Have you ever been caught having sex?
- Do you watch porn?
- What kind of porn do you watch?
- How often do you masturbate?
- Name a sex position you’d like to try
- Do you prefer to give or receive?
- What was your best orgasm ever?
- Have you ever been skinny dipping?
- Have you ever slept with someone you work with?
- If we were out for dinner and I said I wanted to have sex right now, what would you do?
- Have you ever sent nudes of yourself?
- If you could sleep with any celebrity, who would it be?
- Would you/have you had group sex?
- What’s the most sex you’ve had in a day?
- Are you loud or quiet during sex?
- Have you ever tried using food during foreplay?
- Have you ever made a sex tape?
- What’s the first thing that sexually attracts you to someone?
- Would you say you have any fetishes?
- When it comes to BDSM, how far have you gone/would go?
- What’s your favourite toy?
- Do you ever read erotic fiction?
- Have you joined the mile high club?
- Do you think you could take off my underwear with no hands?
- Would you say you’re kinky?
- Do you enjoy shower sex?
- Where’s the weirdest place you’ve ever masturbated?
- Do you like to be spanked?
- What was your most embarrassing sexual experience?
- Have you ever fantasised about someone else during sex?
- If I ever caught you masturbating, would you stop or would you finish?
- Have you ever had an inappropriate crush?
- Have you ever cried or fallen asleep during sex?
- Do you prefer eye contact or not during sex?
- Do you like to kiss during sex?
- Do you get tired after sex?
- How many positions do you think you’ve tried?
- What’s the longest you’ve ever gone without sex?
- How high is your sex drive?
- What’s a surefire way to turn you on?
- Sex with lights on or lights off?
- Do you like dirty talk?
- Have you had sex in a car?
- Do you prefer to take control or be submissive?
- Do you prefer one night stands or longer-term sexual partners?
- Do you prefer to be on top or bottom?
- What would you like to do more of in bed?
- What’s your favourite time of day to have sex?
- Rough or romantic?
- Quickie or marathon session?
- What’s your favourite part of foreplay?
- Would you dress up for me in bed?
- What’s your favourite place to be kissed?
- Do you like sexting?
- What’s the best thing about our sex life?
- What’s the shortest time it’s ever taken for you to have an orgasm?
- And the longest?
- How would you make me have an orgasm?
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Is this sex position truly 'the worst'?
While men aren’t a fan of the classic cowgirl, and women hate it in reverse, how we like it in bed will always be a hot topic.
Of course, everyone has their own personal preferences, but there’s one position that both men and women agree is ‘one of the worst ever’.
What is it, you ask? It’s the 69, and both sexes have the exact same complaint… they don’t like multi-tasking.
It’s an understandable gripe, with countless men and women taking to Reddit to decry the oral act.
One 28-year-old guy wrote: ‘Not a fan. I love giving. I love receiving. 69 makes it hard for me to enjoy either part. I don’t like someone’s crotch in my face when I’m receiving… and the BJ is really overwhelming for me when I’m trying to give pleasure.’
While a female user shared: ‘I don’t enjoy oral unless I can really concentrate on every subtle thing that he does and how good it feels. Otherwise it just feels like someone tickling me in an uncomfortable way.’
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